Respect the Process
I don't consider myself to be an impatient person but perhaps I am less patient than I should be. Lately, I'm reminded that everything has a process. Some of them are easy. The process of getting ready for work in the morning is pretty easy. Get up, Get dressed. Pack lunch. Get coffee. It doesn't generally stress me out unless I'm running late or feeling time crunched.
But other things have processes too. Whether it's writing your novel or growing your career or deciding how you want the rest of your life to look, each of these things has a process. Often, we don't have clear road maps for these endeavors but that doesn't mean there isn't a process.
And it's like the old kid's song about going on a bear hunt. You can't go under it. You can't go around it. You gotta' go through it. The ONLY way out is through.
There's a reason for that. The process is where you learn. It's where you grow. It's where you become. If you try to subvert the process, you miss all of the stuff that's supposed to happen during the process. If you don't learn the lessons you're supposed to learn along the way, you're not going to get to the place you were supposed to go.
So, how can we respect the process? First of all, be mindful. Be present. If you spend all of your time wishing things in your life were different or being sad about the past or longing for some specific future, you are definitely not being present. Being present is both the easiest thing in the world and the most difficult. You may have to remind yourself 8,000 times a day. You may have to continually haul yourself back to this moment but guess, what? That's okay. Don't get discouraged just because it doesn't feel easy. Bring yourself back as many times as you need to. Eventually it does get easier although it may never be easy.
Trust. Trust yourself. Trust your intuition. Trust your wisdom, even when it feels like you've lost it all or never had any to begin with. You have wisdom, I promise you. Whatever you do, do NOT trust that negative voice which tells you that you can't or that you're not good enough. That voice isn't your conscience nor does it have your best interests at heart. That voice is ego. It's not keeping you safe. That's the voice that says the process is too hard or too messy or takes too long. Don't listen. Many times, things unfold just as they should. This doesn't mean that you don't have choices or options. Those are always available to you but some times things are supposed to happen and they do.
Understand that everything has a process whether we recognize it or not. Sometimes the process is simple, well-traversed and something we barely even need to think about. But when we're making bigger life leaps, the process, whatever that entails, can be long and complicated. Don't despair. Keep breathing and respect the process.
But other things have processes too. Whether it's writing your novel or growing your career or deciding how you want the rest of your life to look, each of these things has a process. Often, we don't have clear road maps for these endeavors but that doesn't mean there isn't a process.
And it's like the old kid's song about going on a bear hunt. You can't go under it. You can't go around it. You gotta' go through it. The ONLY way out is through.
There's a reason for that. The process is where you learn. It's where you grow. It's where you become. If you try to subvert the process, you miss all of the stuff that's supposed to happen during the process. If you don't learn the lessons you're supposed to learn along the way, you're not going to get to the place you were supposed to go.
So, how can we respect the process? First of all, be mindful. Be present. If you spend all of your time wishing things in your life were different or being sad about the past or longing for some specific future, you are definitely not being present. Being present is both the easiest thing in the world and the most difficult. You may have to remind yourself 8,000 times a day. You may have to continually haul yourself back to this moment but guess, what? That's okay. Don't get discouraged just because it doesn't feel easy. Bring yourself back as many times as you need to. Eventually it does get easier although it may never be easy.
Trust. Trust yourself. Trust your intuition. Trust your wisdom, even when it feels like you've lost it all or never had any to begin with. You have wisdom, I promise you. Whatever you do, do NOT trust that negative voice which tells you that you can't or that you're not good enough. That voice isn't your conscience nor does it have your best interests at heart. That voice is ego. It's not keeping you safe. That's the voice that says the process is too hard or too messy or takes too long. Don't listen. Many times, things unfold just as they should. This doesn't mean that you don't have choices or options. Those are always available to you but some times things are supposed to happen and they do.
Understand that everything has a process whether we recognize it or not. Sometimes the process is simple, well-traversed and something we barely even need to think about. But when we're making bigger life leaps, the process, whatever that entails, can be long and complicated. Don't despair. Keep breathing and respect the process.
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